Values are rules that you define for yourself, which guide the way you live and the way you conduct yourself. They chart a way of life. Having a value system or believing in some things means doing them for yourself! Not for any other soul on this planet.
Values are not based on convenience! In fact, anything that is convenient to do can not be classified as “value” at all. Having a value system and adhering to it requires utmost tenacity and a determination to adhere to it at all costs. Anything that can be compromised, or can be traded for something seemingly more attractive is not a value!
Let me explain this concept with an example.
Let us say you believe in following traffic rules - you understand their need and believe in them completely. What will you do if you are driving on a deserted road at 2 AM and you come across a red signal? Now, there is no traffic police at that time. Possibly no other vehicle around as well. Will you then stop at the signal, wait for it to turn green or just zoom by? You will stop. The reason is that you are following it not to keep the world (the traffic cops here) happy, but because “you” believe in it! You firmly believe that if all adhered to traffic rules properly, there would be very few accidents, if any at all!
At the same time, if you follow these rules in broad daylight out of fear of loosing a couple of hard-earned bucks to the blood sucking monsters that our traffic policemen are, and you totally refuse to follow them when no one is around, then you are being a hypocrite!!
Most people outside may not be morally correct, but they absolutely dont pretend otherwise.
Some examples of our hypocrisy:
* We will pray with our hearts and soul to all the Goddesses, specially Goddess Lakshmi on Diwali. But, when it comes to having a baby,a boy child is prefered over a girl child
* We will keep our houses speck clean, but not think twice before spitting on the road.
* We will preach morality to our children, and younger siblings but not think once before leching at the next girl on the road.
* We will be fine if our girl friend or wife wears short tops or even sleeveless, but will fume if our sisters wear anything even remotely sexy!!
* We will have all kinds of affairs in our lives, but will expect our spouse to be all clean.
* We will be fine with any guy drinks/smokes, but will totally freak out if any girl does so!!
Can you think of any more instances of hypocrisy? Isn’t it a shame? At the pretext of following values, or living a life morally and ethically correct, we end up leading double lives - one that we really are, one that we show to the world!!
Any day it is more important to be true to yourself! Make your own rules and stick to them! I know it is easier said than done.The question here is that can you even attempt such a thing without being labeled an outcast?
3 comments:
hey! does knowing nothing about a subject you teach and yet expect your students to solve the ghastly equations using the crap u gave dem at a boring lecture count??
don't blame me!! it's all fault of the mid terms :(
your post is wonderful & ryt on tym.....Hypocrisy has now become ingrained in our society....& values have been long forgotten...we all live multiple lives....we project an image in our homes which is totally different from the image that our friends see us in which again is different from what we think of ourselves...ours is a society of convienience and of mutual parasitism.....the greatest tragedy is that we are not being true to ourselves by doing what is most convienient instead of what is right.....i hope that your post inspires someone to rise up and stand up for something atleast once in his life....keep on writing...you never know how many lives you can change.........
@ andy
hehehe i gues tht cmes in dis category 2 ;)..sme1 luks damn frustrated LOL :p
@ sid
thnk ya i hpe so 2 :) n hey thnks for commntin ...)
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